Alex is very intelligent. She greatly enjoys messing with both her older sister and younger brother. You kind of getting the sense that Alex is an outside observer to the antics that surround her while quietly doing her own thing. As much as she enjoys torturing her brother and sister, she is shown to love them both. According to Haley, she has no fashion sense. And judging by the constant remarks from her sister, Alex is shown as being very socially awkward, with difficulty in making friends and in being able to find a boy who likes her. It is shown in several occasions, though, that she does indeed care for her reputation, like when she refuses to let her be seen with her mother dropping her off to meetings with her girl friends, and when she accepts advice from Haley about how to treat a friend and climb into popularity, and when she asks Haley to let her sit at the popular table in exchange for her help in their Math subject. She did go to her prom with a classmate who everyone, but himself knows is gay.
She, as a stereotypical precocious kid, displays a sense of superiority because of her erudition, constantly putting her accomplishments on display and demanding recognition for them. An overachiever, she plays the cello and practices lacrosse; she chose to play the cello because she would have a better chance at being in a university orchestra than if she played the violin, as cellos are more in demand, although she does not actually enjoy playing the cello and eventually hated it, saying that she only continued doing so because she does not want to start quitting anything as she never had in her life.
It has been established recently in the episode Tableau Vivant that Alex is a light sleeper, as she was surprisingly energetic when staying awake nearly a whole night thinking about her upcoming art project. In the episode Planes, Trains and Cars, it appears Alex is bilingual, as she spoke to Haley "Time to get a new boyfriend" in what appeared to have been Chinese. She is one of the 'proud' children in the Dunphy family, but she yet has every need to be seeing as she is the smartest.
Haley Dunphy is Alex's older sister, she also happens to be her polar opposite. While Alex is smart, quick witted and geeky Haley is popular, outgoing and shallow. At the beggining of the series Haley and Alex had a much more strained relationship with Alex always trying to stand apart from her sister and Haley constantly mocking Alex on her life choices, such as clothing, homework, boys and Alex would return the mocking. As years have progressed the two girls have grown closer, though they still mock and tease eachother, it is in a more playfull way and you know that they love and care about eachother.
In the pilot episode of Season 3, Dude Ranch, she met and probably had a short-lived long-distance relationship with Jimmy, a boy she met while on their family vacation in Wyoming. Jimmy first flirts with her while Alex is reading by the pool, who is in turn irritated by him. Later, while she is pushing Lily on the swing, Jimmy approaches them and teases her again. Alex confronts him about leaving her alone, Jimmy kisses her to shut her up and leaves. Later on, Alex confronts him about stealing her first kiss. Jimmy kisses her again, saying that he gives her first kiss back, and Alex kisses him again, saying that she doesn't want it back, before she leaves in confusion.
As their family leaves Wyoming, they have a conversation about their distance, realizing that their will be 2,443 miles between them. Jimmy jokingly replies that their distance is small in some maps. Alex calls him stupid for this, and they have a final kiss before Jimmy leaves.
He keeps calling Alex things like "gorgeous" and "sunshine".
In Door to Door, Alex is said to have been Skyping with her boyfriend, most likely Jimmy.
In the second episode of season two, The Kiss, Claire finds out that Alex has been texting with a boy. She sends Haley to give Alex advice about love, however, Haley says that if she doesn't kiss him soon, he will think she's a lesbian, so she rushes to Jeremy's house and rambles on about their feelings and wanting to kiss him. Jeremy is left stunned and, before he is able to reply, the door to their house opens and it is revealed that his friends have just overheard their conversation. Alex runs off in embarrassment. The news quickly spreads, humiliating both Alex and Haley.
That night after Claire comforts Alex, Jeremy appears by their house, waiting for Alex. He tells her that if his friends weren't there, he would have said yes to his offer of a kiss. When he asks her if she still wants to, she tells him that she wants to hang out with him in person more first instead of just over text, to which Jeremy sighs with relief.
In season four, there is a prom at Alex's high school. After saying it was lame, she does get asked by a boy named Michael. In episode 7, Yard Sale, he comes over. Claire is certain he's gay, and Mitchell and Cameron confirm her suspicions. They convince Alex to ask him. This isn't met well, as Michael gets very defensive and upset. Later, however, they are seen being intimate again.
- Main article: Alex Dunphy Quotes
"It's junior year, do you know how competitive it is out there? I have to get good grades! Stop pressuring me!!" - Alex
"You know, this is what happens to kids when they're not sexually active.." - Haley