The Funeral of Grace Dunphy took place in the Season 4 finale "Goodnight Gracie".


Grace Dunphy was Phil's mother who died in this episode. She appears to have passed away in her sleep as her daughter-in-law Claire "She went very peacefully in her sleep."

The funeral was attended by family and friends of Grace, including her husband Frank and also the main characters, minus Lily and Joe.


The first thing seen at the ceremony was music being played on a clarinet. After it was finished, Phil thanked everyone for attending and made way for Alex to give a little tribute to her grandmother. Alex hugged her father and began her speech. After she finished, she lit fireworks with Grace's lighter which was given to Alex. Frank had told her the story about how they missed the Fourth of July one year because they got drunk in the afternoon and took a little catnap that ran too long, so Frank and she made their own fireworks. Which grossed Alex out until he explained he lit fireworks for her...then they made love all night. Frank also pointed out there was more to Alex's card than "this is a lighter" (things stick together all the time in Florida).

After Alex had lit the fireworks, her voice-over started reading what her grandmother had written:

ALEX: This is a lighter. It belonged to my favorite actor, Paul Newman. One day, he came to the restaurant where I was waitressing and accidentally left it behind. For the first time in my life, I did something I wasn't supposed to and slipped it into my pocket. One of the customers saw and said "Don't worry. Your secret's safe with me." That customer turned out to be the love of my life: your grandfather. So, dear Alex, who I love so dearly, who's probably too much like me for her own good, don't be afraid to break the rules. You never know what might happen.

As Alex's voice continued speaking, the final moments of the funeral showed Alex returning to her seat and her and Haley cuddling up to each other and watching the fireworks.


  • This is the first funeral in the series.
  • It is unknown why Lily and Joe were absent when it is Phil's mother's funeral and Phil is Lily's adoptive/marital uncle and Joe's half-brother-in-law.

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